Talking to kids about what’s happening in the world can feel intimidating, especially when headlines are confusing or heavy. But children are already absorbing information from school, friends, social media and overheard adult conversations. Opening the door to honest, calm discussions helps them make sense of what they hear and builds trust and critical-thinking skills. Here are five ways to talk to your military kids about current events.
Bring it up first.
Kids are perceptive. Even if they don’t understand the details, they sense when something big is happening. You’ve likely seen this when your spouse comes home with “news” and the kids suddenly start bouncing off the walls.
Instead of waiting for them to ask, take the lead. Bringing up current events first lets you set the tone and provide context before misinformation or fear fills the gaps. A simple opener like, “You may have heard people talking about X — do you want to chat about what’s going on?” can go a long way toward making them feel safe and supported.
This is especially important when the news may affect their parent’s job — something military kids experience often.
Keep the discussion age-appropriate.
When my oldest was 2 and his father deployed, I explained that Daddy was at work. He didn’t need to know that “work” was thousands of miles away; he only needed an answer that made sense to him. Now that he’s 17, he expects and needs more detail.
Not every child needs the same amount of information, and not every child matures at the same pace. Younger kids benefit from broad explanations that focus on feelings, safety and the “big picture,” while older kids can handle more nuance or even conflicting viewpoints.
Let their developmental stage guide how much you share.
Encourage questions.
Kids learn best when they’re allowed to wonder out loud. Encouraging questions — even silly ones — signals that curiosity is welcome.
Questions can reveal misunderstandings you can gently correct or concerns they’re too shy to voice directly. Agree to revisit the topic when they learn something new or when the situation changes.
Current events evolve, and so will their thoughts. The goal isn’t to have all the answers but to model how to think through complicated issues together.
Don’t tell them what to believe; help them figure it out.
Talking to kids about politics or hard news doesn’t need to feel overwhelming or divisive. Approach it the same way you would any tough topic: with honesty, curiosity and plenty of listening.
Kids don’t need every statistic or policy detail. What they benefit from is understanding how decisions are made and why people disagree. Your job is to guide, not dictate.
Teach them where to find reliable information.
As kids get older, media literacy becomes one of the greatest tools you can give them. Show them how to identify trustworthy sources, check facts and spot bias. You don’t have to hand them a list of “acceptable” outlets — that may backfire. Instead, explain the difference between opinion and reporting or walk them through how you verify information. When they learn how to navigate news on their own, they’re better prepared to manage the constant flow of information with confidence rather than confusion.
Talking about current events with your military kids isn’t about having the perfect explanation. It’s about guiding them through a complicated world with steadiness and compassion. When they know they can turn to you for clarity, reassurance and honesty, they gain the tools they need to make sense of the world long after the headlines change.
